Comments on: Social Anxiety http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/ Raising a Healthy Family Without Religion. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:29:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.1 By: fran http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-197 fran Thu, 16 Feb 2006 18:48:06 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-197 Christianity is based on dogmas and fantasies acceptable only to the deficiently cultivated person who lacks insight into the existing scientific (proven) realities that surround him. ( science is truth )They are oppressed and kept from engaging in activity that would allow them to seek proof. With adequate compunction they are easily dissuaded when they stray. That is why they dispise you when you leave the flock. They are followers and can't bear to see a leader leave .Wherever your journey takes you, continue to seek the truth and don't allow illusions and lies overtake you. Christianity is based on dogmas and fantasies acceptable only to the deficiently cultivated person who lacks insight into the existing scientific (proven) realities that surround him. ( science is truth )They are oppressed and kept from engaging in activity that would allow them to seek proof. With adequate compunction they are easily dissuaded when they stray. That is why they dispise you when you leave the flock. They are followers and can’t bear to see a leader leave .Wherever your journey takes you, continue to seek the truth and don’t allow illusions and lies overtake you.

]]> By: Zoe http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-157 Zoe Thu, 09 Feb 2006 16:38:50 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-157 Hi Noelle, When I came out to my friends & family most of them didn't take me seriously. Sort of smiled at me like, well, you're in a mid-life crisis, or oooooookay Zoe, whatever you say, or I know you're going through a rough time right now...it didn't matter, they didn't get it, couldn't conceive of it or imagine it. So, I just let them believe whatever they want & keep on being me. :) Hi Noelle,

When I came out to my friends & family most of them didn’t take me seriously. Sort of smiled at me like, well, you’re in a mid-life crisis, or oooooookay Zoe, whatever you say, or I know you’re going through a rough time right now…it didn’t matter, they didn’t get it, couldn’t conceive of it or imagine it.

So, I just let them believe whatever they want & keep on being me. :)

]]> By: Jason http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-143 Jason Mon, 06 Feb 2006 20:02:31 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-143 I have yet to tell my family have left the church, although have quite a few friends who respect that and don't seem to judge me too much for it (stress on "too much..."). Even coming out as gay for myself doesn't equal the amount of queasiness I get when I think of telling htme I don't go to church or worship their god anymore... so I understand when you meet your past with silence and walk the other way.... Here's hoping you find the inner strength! Good luck! "Be proud of who you are! No one else will be unless you are yourself." My uncle told me that once, and I guess it's kind of like my life's motto.... Catch ya later! I have yet to tell my family have left the church, although have quite a few friends who respect that and don’t seem to judge me too much for it (stress on “too much…”). Even coming out as gay for myself doesn’t equal the amount of queasiness I get when I think of telling htme I don’t go to church or worship their god anymore… so I understand when you meet your past with silence and walk the other way….

Here’s hoping you find the inner strength! Good luck! “Be proud of who you are! No one else will be unless you are yourself.” My uncle told me that once, and I guess it’s kind of like my life’s motto….

Catch ya later!

]]> By: Ron http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-142 Ron Mon, 06 Feb 2006 19:51:27 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-142 It would probably feel best to close the chapter and tie up any loose ends that present themselves. Things left undone tend to drain a person. It would probably feel best to close the chapter and tie up any loose ends that present themselves. Things left undone tend to drain a person.

]]> By: Laura http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-141 Laura Mon, 06 Feb 2006 03:07:32 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-141 I wonder the same things, Noell. I "came out" to my best friend from college about 4 years ago in an email. We were very close for many years and went through a lot together. She was always very 'jack' mormon and I thought she would accept me but she did not. That's when I realized she was already a foot out the door of our friendship. We have not spoken since and I'm leaving it there. I came out to another church friend from Topeka about the same time, who was also very open-minded and I was surprised how badly she responded. Once again we have not spoken since. A part of me is actually not surprised, because I have heard and read many similar accounts. Sadly, this is the norm, which was why I was so tickled-pink to find you again. I do wonder what would happen if I visited my parents' ward in Topeka. I guess the first step would be coming out to my parents. That's a scary first step. But back to topic, I wonder how many of our old church friends are out of the church or even doubting. I wonder the same things, Noell.
I “came out” to my best friend from college about 4 years ago in an email. We were very close for many years and went through a lot together. She was always very ‘jack’ mormon and I thought she would accept me but she did not. That’s when I realized she was already a foot out the door of our friendship. We have not spoken since and I’m leaving it there. I came out to another church friend from Topeka about the same time, who was also very open-minded and I was surprised how badly she responded. Once again we have not spoken since.

A part of me is actually not surprised, because I have heard and read many similar accounts. Sadly, this is the norm, which was why I was so tickled-pink to find you again.
I do wonder what would happen if I visited my parents’ ward in Topeka. I guess the first step would be coming out to my parents. That’s a scary first step.
But back to topic, I wonder how many of our old church friends are out of the church or even doubting.

]]> By: Mary http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-140 Mary Mon, 06 Feb 2006 01:55:04 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-140 I imagine your journey (as it is) is that much harder because of your past religious affiliations/beliefs. I have no idea what your friend would say, but I imagine that if you emailed her you'd likely hear back nothing. Do you think that the next step in living as an Agnostic will come with acknowledging that fact to people who you know will be either shocked or outright condemning? Or has that already happened... I imagine your journey (as it is) is that much harder because of your past religious affiliations/beliefs. I have no idea what your friend would say, but I imagine that if you emailed her you’d likely hear back nothing. Do you think that the next step in living as an Agnostic will come with acknowledging that fact to people who you know will be either shocked or outright condemning? Or has that already happened…

]]> By: Tracy http://www.agnosticmom.com/2006/02/05/social-anxiety/#comment-139 Tracy Mon, 06 Feb 2006 00:10:37 +0000 http://www.agnosticmom.com/?p=50#comment-139 Hello! My husband and I are agnostic and we moved to Phoenix from Chicago. The past year has changed a lot we now have a 13 month old baby and I stay at home. I am having the hardest times finding other non religious moms. I feel that everyone I meet is either a born again or mormon. Do you find it hard finding friends who are not religious? I know this doesn't pertain to your questions, but I read you are from Arizona and was wondering if you know of any agnostic moms club or at least non- religion focused groups? Hello!

My husband and I are agnostic and we moved to Phoenix from Chicago. The past year has changed a lot we now have a 13 month old baby and I stay at home. I am having the hardest times finding other non religious moms. I feel that everyone I meet is either a born again or mormon. Do you find it hard finding friends who are not religious? I know this doesn’t pertain to your questions, but I read you are from Arizona and was wondering if you know of any agnostic moms club or at least non- religion focused groups?

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